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Officer Kelly DiBona testifying

Making Dating Relationships Safer

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Many of us dread Sunday evenings, because Monday means preparing to return to work or school. NEOMED police officer Kelly DiBona, on the other hand, holds Sunday evenings close to her heart.

For years, Officer DiBona held the Sunday evening shift at Safer Futures, a domestic violence shelter and resource center in Portage County—the same shelter where she stayed with her mother when she was a child.

“Sunday evenings were special. Kids were getting ready for that week of school, women were getting ready for the work week and most times everybody was home cooking together, so that was when I really got to listen to the ladies share their personal stories,” says Officer DiBona.

Becoming an advocate

After hearing those stories and watching her mother suffer through an abusive relationship for more than a decade, Officer DiBona wanted to do something to help women like her mother. The opportunity presented itself in October 2015, when Officer DiBona met Emilia Sykes, Representative for the 34th district of the Ohio House of Representatives, during a panel interview at Northeast Ohio Medical University. Soon afterward, the two decided to join forces as advocates for domestic violence.

Before Officer DiBona, Rep. Sykes and Nathan Manning, Representative for the 55th district of the Ohio House of Representatives, pushed for bipartisan passage of H.B.1, Ohio was one of the last two states “to allow victims of dating violence to obtain civil protective orders against their attacker”—the same protection against violence as those who are living together or married. (Georgia is now the last state awaiting updated terminology.)

The process of patience

It took some doing. Officer Di Bona testified at hearings in 2015 and 2017, then submitted a written testimony later in 2017. House Bill 392 made it through the House but failed in the Senate vote. But Reps. Sykes and Manning persisted. With patience and the right timing, the team was able to see a new version, House Bill 1, through to success.

HB1 took effect on July 6, 2018. Ohio’s revised code now authorizes “the issuance of a domestic violence civil protection order with respect to conduct directed at a petitioner alleging violence in a dating relationship [our emphasis] of a specified nature, to provide access to domestic violence shelters for victims of violence in such a dating relationship, and to require the Attorney General’s victim’s bill of rights pamphlet to include a notice that a person alleging violence in such a dating relationship has the right to petition for a domestic violence civil protection order.”

It was a long road, says Officer DiBona, but three testimonies later, she can proudly say she played a role in this important and much-needed update.

Offering comfort

“I think this is extremely important just because it opens up another avenue for someone to gain an extra layer of protection. The new law means that law enforcement responds completely differently. It escalates the situation and mandates that there is an extremely immediate need for us to be there to help that person out,” says Officer DiBona.

As someone who has lived in a home with domestic violence and now as a law enforcement official, Officer DiBona knows the territory better than most.

“I actually had a lady once say to me, ‘So if I let him punch me in the face one more time, then I have the criteria for a civil protection order?’ Unfortunately, it was true because of the difference between a civil protection order and anti-stalking order at the time. The criteria was so specific, you either got one or the other. A civil protection order gives you some extra resources beyond an anti-stalking order,” Officer DiBona explains.

Now people in a dating relationship, like that woman, have more protection.

Continuing to advocate

With House Bill 1 in place, Officer DiBona continues to be an advocate throughout her community to help reduce domestic violence. Through Crisis Intervention Training (CIT) and Crisis Intervention Team Education Collaboration (CITEC), Officer DiBona educates local educators and law enforcement officials, using her personal experiences to help them recognize and address children or adults who are experiencing domestic violence. She’d like everyone to feel the safety and warmth she saw at the shelter on those Sunday nights.

This article first appeared in the Fall 2018 issue of Ignite magazine.

 

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